Four Barriers to Communication

1.Withdrawal - never do this overnight.

Ephesians 4:26  (NKJV)

26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,

2. Escalation - don't try to fix things during the conflict.

James 1:19 New King James Version (NKJV)

...be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;

3. Belittling the other person.

Proverbs 18:21  (NKJV)

21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.

4.  False Beliefs about the relationship , which is the most dangerous.

Hosea 4:6 (NKJV)

6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.

Chris Hodges, Church of the Highlands

https://www.churchofthehighlands.com/media/message/uncommon-communication

Four Levels of Communication

(Romans 12:2 NLT) 

Don’t copy the behavior 

and customs of this world, 

but let God transform you 

into a new person by changing 

the way you think. 

Then you will learn to know 

God’s will for you, which is good 

and pleasing and perfect.

1. Surface  

communication like 

"How are you?".

2. General 

information like 

"what happened at work today?"

3. Deep feelings aren't always real, 

but they feel real.

4. Deep needs. 

Chris Hodges, Church of the Highlands

https://www.churchofthehighlands.com/media/message/uncommon-communication 

How to communicate

There are four levels to communication. 

1. Surface communication.

2. General information.

3. Deep feelings. 

4. Deep needs.

Feelings are not always right, but they are real. 

There are four barriers to communication. 

1. Withdrawal. 

2. Escalation.

3. Belittling.

4. False Belief. 

Uncommon Communication. (Matthew 12:36-37)

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. (George Bernard Shaw)

Be intentional with your words.  We are the product of the words spoken over us.  You can create your world with your words. 

You are to be a leader, and not a follower.  Don't let your world change you, but you change your world. 

Here is how you should communicate with...

1. Praise. Proverbs 25:11.

2. Thanksgiving.  Proverbs 18:21-22.

3. Affection.  Jeremiah 31:3.

4. Encouragement.  Ephesians 4:29.

5. Kindness.  Proverbs 15:1.

6. Speak the truth in love.  Ephesians 4:14.

7. Prayer. Psalm 16:8-9.

Truth without grace is mean.  Grace without truth is meaningless.  Truth and grace is medicine.  

Chris Hodges, Church of the Highlands